‘Don’t fight about money because after you have said mean things to each other, the amount of money in the bank will be the same.’ ~ Anonymous Financial disagreements are among the leading cause of fights in marriages today. Many couples argue largely on the use of money. It is no wonder many pre-marital classes…
Tag: Relationships
Excess Baggage
Many of us do not realize just how much our past affects our current and future relationships. Please check your excess baggage.
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Silence of the Lambs
By Munene Gangi “Nothing good ever comes of violence.” Martin Luther I live a simple, or is it simplistic, life. I am reserved and quite an introvert. The isolation during this pandemic period hasn’t affected me that much, only that I am not able to see as many people as I used to unless taking…
Fair Game
‘Many marriages would be better if the husband and the wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.’ ~ Zig Ziglar Conflict is a minefield in the piece of land called relationship, very much part of life yet so badly handled by many. Those in love want to know how to resolve it…
Rejection
Rejection doesn’t mean you’re not good enough; it means the other person has failed to notice what you have to offer. ~ Mark Amend Ever felt alone, felt unwanted or unappreciated? Ever been rejected by someone, whether directly or indirectly? Ever experienced those feelings of anguish, of bitterness, betrayal and, sometimes, rage? I bet you…
Un-Stable
I want a financially stable guy. How many times have you said that? How many girls have you heard say that? Is it wrong to have such a desire? After all, it’s your dream. And to quote Lupita Nyong’o, your dreams are valid. Financial stability is and has been a key consideration for many when…
Mid-Life: Crisis Mode
My heart took delight in all my labor, and this was the reward for all my toil. Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done and what I had toiled to achieve, everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind; nothing was gained under the sun -Ecclesiastes 2:10–11 Very profound, those two verses. ‘I worked…
Musings of a Woman
The setting was perfect. The excitement was genuine. A cuppa at Java coffee with a friend I had not seen in ages. In the end, I felt angry, I felt helpless. I cried. Here she was, a young lady, going through so much torment in her short life. And there I was, listening and asking…
I Can Do Bad By Myself
Most people cheat because they are focusing on what they’re missing rather than on what they have – Unknown Ah, remember last week? That never-ending age-old topic on whether men are capable of loving only one woman? Well, interesting feedback I received from both great sides of the divide. Women fear that unknown; is he…
Love One Woman? Impossible
It is not monogamy when there is one legal wife, and mistresses out of sight – Annie Besant I was listening to radio the other day. I don’t know why I got stuck to listening to this particular station. I usually don’t pay much attention to what’s aired on it due to its controversies. But…
Worthy to Serve?
A question was recently posted to me by a friend. Was she still worthy to serve in church? Like really, was she? Here’s her story; she recently separated with her husband after going through a rough patch in their marriage. Having been both regulars, she had chosen to serve in that particular church they attended….
Transparency Quagmire
This article was triggered by a conversation with a friend who shared with me a rather sad story. There’s a couple out there who’ve been married for around two years. They literally have not had sex since they got married. Why? The man discovered that his wife had undergone female genital mutilation but had never disclosed…
Emotional Infidelity
It happened subtly. You can’t explain how it began. Casually. A simple compliment. A smile. A stare. A second look. And another. Before you knew it, thoughts were lingering. A desire to see him. A need to talk to her. You enjoyed. The talks. Easy. Longer talks. You talked about everything and anything. Then, a…
A Few Good Men
“Both men and women today see marriage not as a way of creating character and community but as a way to reach personal life goals. They are looking for a marriage partner who will ‘fulfill their emotional, sexual, and spiritual desires.’ And that creates an extreme idealism that in turn leads to a deep pessimism…
May ‘e’ date you?
The dating world makes me feel incredibly vulnerable. You put yourself out there earnestly as available only to encounter some of the most disingenuous people. There seems to be no formula. Just a boat load of anxiety. – Alafia Stewart We live in the digital era. That’s right. It’s like a new world. Cars, books,…
Holiday Inn
And just like that, the school calendar is over, and in comes in the longest School break of the year. It is good for the kids, a moment for rejuvenation. After all, they have been studying hard all year? It’s a good time to have good ol’ family time with them. And yet, it may…
Keeping it real? It ain’t real no more
Bring back those simple times of yesterday When a man was a man And a friend was a friend Bring back those simple times of yesterday When you said what you meant And you meant what you said. I grew up listening to this song, Simple Days, in the 90s. Back then, Kenneth Brian Edmonds,…
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