Body shaming

“It’s not my responsibility to be beautiful. I’m not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me.” Warsan Shire Has anyone ever said anything negative to you about your body? Have they called you fat, that you have a big forehead and they make fun of your receding hairline?…

I Am Alone

I would like to dedicate this article to you, you who has tried to do your best to make your marriage work but either, it is not working, or you have already gone separate ways with your spouse. I recently wrote on the issue of being part of a group that you can walk with…

A Letter to My Folks

It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings. Today, I honor two important people in my life. My parents. This article has been inspired by a change that has taken place that requires some adjustments. You see,…

Emotional Infidelity

It happened subtly. You can’t explain how it began. Casually. A simple compliment. A smile. A stare. A second look. And another. Before you knew it, thoughts were lingering. A desire to see him. A need to talk to her. You enjoyed. The talks. Easy. Longer talks. You talked about everything and anything. Then, a…

Never Walk Alone

When you walk through a storm, Hold your head up high, And don’t be afraid of the dark. At the end of a storm, There’s a golden sky, And the sweet silver song of a lark, Walk on through the wind, Walk on through the rain. Though your dreams be tossed and blown, Walk on,…

Every Woman

Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Proverbs 31.30 How do you balance all that? This is one of the common questions for women that are deemed successful by the society. We wonder how a successful woman at the helm of an organization manages…

I Do, Over and Again

Munene Gangi He spun around, his head in his hands. His expression echoed disbelief. How did this happen, he seemed to wordlessly implore. This was after infidelity had wrecked his marriage. This was after abuse had crippled his relationship. This was after economic hardships and financial disloyalty had sabotaged a life long journey. His patience…

Love Duty

Last week on 8th March was International Women’s Day, a day that celebrates and recognizes women’s cultural, social, economic and political achievements, while building their rights and participation in the said spheres. I was amazed at the number of events that took place in the country and around the world in honor of women. Women…

The Sub-Mission

It was a bridal shower for a friend, the first I had attended in my life. Clearly, I had no idea what these showers were all about. The ladies in attendance were looking like a million bob each, never mind back then showers were not color coordinated and a theme to boot. Many of us were…

A Few Good Men

“Both men and women today see marriage not as a way of creating character and community but as a way to reach personal life goals. They are looking for a marriage partner who will ‘fulfill their emotional, sexual, and spiritual desires.’ And that creates an extreme idealism that in turn leads to a deep pessimism…

Water Runs Dry

We don’t even talk anymore And we don’t even know what we argue about. Don’t even say I love you no more ‘Cause saying how we feel is no longer allowed. Some people will work things out And some just don’t know how to change Let’s not wait till the water runs dry. We might…

Tangled

I recently started a conversation on emotional abuse and had a chance to talk to several colleagues on their upbringing. Their responses got me thinking, about how parenting can either have positive or negative impact. Growing up, my father’s word was law. He didn’t shy away from disciplining my siblings and I, and exercised Proverbs…

May ‘e’ date you?

The dating world makes me feel incredibly vulnerable. You put yourself out there earnestly as available only to encounter some of the most disingenuous people. There seems to be no formula. Just a boat load of anxiety. – Alafia Stewart We live in the digital era. That’s right. It’s like a new world. Cars, books,…

UnLearning

Standing tall on the public greenspace of Champ de Mars in Paris is the Eiffel Tower. Beautiful. Magnificent. Majestic. This cultural iconic tower, the most visited paid monument in the world, had me stunned by the level of detail as I laid my eyes on it. It has stood for close to 130 years. Awesome….

Scarred

“The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heal” – Astrid Alauda A child is born into this world. A tough, tough world. Difficult to navigate through. Years go by. His mother, her dad. Painful words spew from their mouths. You are good for nothing. I wish I never had you. You will never…

Hold Me… to Account

A duty dodged is like a debt unpaid; it is only deferred, and we must come back and settle the account at last. ~ Joseph Fort Newton The New Year may have just begun, but as for you and I, we will continue sharing our literary worlds. Buckle up. Let’s Get Talking. Highs and lows…

Un-break my heart

“When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart has been sent to heal.” – Author Unknown We have all experienced this before, a feeling of great sadness, feeling of disappointment. A feeling that seems like it…

A Letter to You, My Daughter

The day was 19th November, the year 2002. I was drowsy. I had woken up after six hours. As I looked up, I could see tears streaming down my sister’s face. Tears of joy. For after a caesarian section operation due to fetal distress, she gave me the news. A beautiful baby girl had been…

Till Money Do Us Part?

Money, makes the world go round. It has become the answer to almost everything. Proverbs 10.15 states, “The wealth of the rich is their fortified city, the poverty of the poor is their ruins.” Money opens doors for opportunities, both good and bad. It is the medium we use to access our needs. I would…

Courageous Cowards

Munene Gangi There are statements that we love to use; ‘I trust God’, ‘I believe in Him’, ‘He’s promised to deliver’. Big statements that show a belief in the supernatural, a supreme being we call the Almighty. Statements that show faith, that though the norm says A cannot happen before B, we believe it can….

Holiday Inn

And just like that, the school calendar is over, and in comes in the longest School break of the year. It is good for the kids, a moment for rejuvenation. After all, they have been studying hard all year? It’s a good time to have good ol’ family time with them. And yet, it may…

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall…

Do you get scared of seeing those scars, marks, folds, cellulite, wrinkles and other real or imagined imperfections on your body? Ever chosen to stand in front of a mirror bare naked. I did. I gathered my courage and looked at myself… bare. However, just as it may not be easy for some of us,…

Forever Yours?

In the recent weeks, our country has been fed with on-goings of a murder case, that of a deceased young woman. The investigations of the case, of which I will not talk much about, are still in progress, with the suspects being an engaged couple that are known in the society. With the intriguing events…

Expectations

Manage your expectations. A crucial statement that has always left me wondering, especially where relationships are concerned. After all, don’t we all have some things that need to be met? Isn’t this, I believe, the reason we choose the people we want to be with, because we know they can meet these things? Picture this….

Enemy of the State: The State of Man

Munene Gangi Just as a shark detects one drop of blood in a gazillion of water, so are we quick to spot moments of telling weaknesses in men. Moments that leave us decrying the lack of good men around, moments that have made ladies think they are lost in a forest and cannot find a…

The Retirement of a Worship Leader

‘Aren’t you old to be still serving?’ That’s what it sounds, at times, when people see that I’m still in the worship team, or choir, as some churches prefer to put it. It amazes me, but more importantly, it makes me wonder; when can, or does, one retire from serving in the music ministry? Why…

Ooo-oh Boy Child!

There has been a lot of talk lately about the boy child, it may have affected our weather patterns. Many are wondering what is happening to him. Has he become weak? Some may think. Is he endangered owing to the empowered female who is taking over the world? Others might argue. You see, a lot…

What’s 40 got to do with it?

Today I turn 40! Yes, and I have been asking myself one question. What’s the big deal about turning 40? Just what is it? I know the Bible does show a number of instances where 40 signified a period of trial and/or testing. And outside of it, there have actually been many debates as to…

Kigumz @40!

I turn 40 next week. That’s right, I do. I just never imagined that I’d hit this age one day. Well, except in the last 2 years or so. You see, it’s always easy to think of yourself as forever young. Youth is bliss, you know? I’ve had a chance to reflect on my life…

Keeping it real? It ain’t real no more

Bring back those simple times of yesterday When a man was a man And a friend was a friend Bring back those simple times of yesterday When you said what you meant And you meant what you said. I grew up listening to this song, Simple Days, in the 90s. Back then, Kenneth Brian Edmonds,…

A Thorny Flight to Rose County

Munene Gangi The camera lingers for a moment, capturing you and your lovebird ecstatic at being the globe’s newest couple. The glorious occasion, sealed with a kiss, is the perfect send off to your field of dreams in the uncharted world of marriage. Joy, excitement, intimacy and adventure consume you as you resonate with Michael…

Don’t Leave Me God

Return me to your power, That once by grace I knew, Forgive the sin that grieves your heart, And help me be true, Don’t turn your face from me, For the things I used to do, Renew a right spirit within my heart, All I need is You. Don’t, don’t leave me God, Don’t, don’t…

Weighting to Exhale

If you haven’t read my article titled ‘Hip Mama’, please do. Losing weight is one of the hardest tasks on earth, as hard as turning away from sin. You have good intentions of changing your ways; eating right, exercising, drinking lots of water, clean eating (no wheat or sugar). Intentions. Similar to those New Year…

When we Praise

When you praise, when you praise, there should be a fire in your heart. Hands up raised, when you praise, consuming every part because you know the GOD we serve will make His presence known. When you praise, when you praise. Fred Hammond (lyrics) Sunday morning. Here I am, about to go lead worship in…

The Elephant in the Room

Why do some of us do it? Why do we just find it so irresistible? What are we so curious to know? In a conversation I had with a couple of my colleagues, the men wondered why women like snooping through their husbands or boyfriends’ phones. Why, they asked, is it hard not to go…

Do I need My Rib back?

Matt Ruigu Just so that we are clear, I have an abundance of love for the girls. The way I see it, they make life exciting and worth the trouble. I may have mentioned in the past that if not for girls, the great Cape to Cairo trek would never have been done. I have…

Let No One put Asunder

‘I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.’ Powerful, powerful words aren’t they. They that always make me wonder if many of those exchanging these…

Obsession

Parenting is not so much doing the right things with your child, but it’s about being the right person with the child. ~ Stanley Mukolwe Mothers. They obsess. Their brag about their children. Great grades in school, how the kids thrive in sport. Fast learners in spelling or reading, singing has become so natural it…

Color Me Perfect

Munene Gangi If Adam and Eve were to take theater seats and watch the movie we call ‘Relationship’, they would certainly be engulfed in fits of hysterical laughter. Not since the infamous days of the forbidden apple has the term ‘perfection’ looked to have lost its meaning, as modern day human beings seek to make…

Independence Day

When did they grow up, you ask. When did they get a mind of their own, you process. When did they stop being needy and clingy on mum or dad, you get bewildered. Just when did they grow up? Every child born, more often than not, is a bundle of joy. The parent’s nurturing, training,…

Romeo, Wherefore Art Thou, Romeo?

Ah, that famous Shakespeare’s balcony scene that has Juliet beckoning Romeo, “O Romeo, Romeo, wherefore art thou Romeo?’ I don’t think Juliet Capulet’s question related to ‘where’ Romeo Montague could have been as opposed to ‘why’ Romeo had to be a Montague, a member of a rival gang. The story does paint a backdrop, though, of…

Hip Mama, Slam in the Ham!

You’ve put on weight! You are too heavy! You don’t like what you see in the mirror? Cellulite! Try out this diet! Avoid carbs! Avoid meat! Portions! Paleo! Do some exercises! Many women do struggle with weight issues, and as a result, most do not esteem themselves highly. The pressures and the noises of this…

Why would I get Married?

Ask randomly and you will be told that marriage is similar to jumping from the frying pan into a blazing furnace. Meet anyone in the streets and on their foreheads will be the words ‘Be afraid. Be very afraid’. Listen to your best friend utter the words ‘marriage is like a room with no exit door’ and you’ll…

Rosy Sparks

Don’t want to live this life without you, Defeats the purpose of what we’ve been through, I’ve got to hold on and trust that you will too, Coz life will be meaningless if you’re not there boo! I remember the day I saw you and you saw me, And you came up to me and…

What If…?

Innovation is at the very heart of the existence of the life science company I work for.  We have been encouraged not to kill any idea and to continuously think of solutions to problems that we face in our day-to-day life, to internalize and to live the essence of the concept ‘What if’. To be…