Church Disruption, Way Forward?

Many of us thought that COVID-19 would be managed in a matter of months. However, this virus has proved relentless and its effects have greatly affected lives across the world. We have read much about it. I will not focus on what you already know. My thoughts and prayers are with all who have been…

18 Years

Time sure does fly. Where were you 18 years ago? Do you even remember? What would you have told your 18 year old self? I turned 18 while in high school in the middle of major exams. However, I was looking forward to living the life. I knew it was going to be great but…

Why You Need to Understand the Financial Past

‘My financial future will be brighter than my past.’ Following my recent article, Be In The Know, I received some feedback from some of my readers. There are those who felt that the article was in favor of women at the expense of the boy child. Others gave their perspectives regarding why married women do…

Be In The Know

When it comes to money matters, seek to use your head, not your heart. This is important for women who neglect this part of their lives since they are ‘in love’.

In-Laws

“You are a guest in their marriage and their home. You have to fold into their rules and their lives if you want to be welcome there.” Dr. Phil The topic of in-laws is an emotive one, a funny one and a sad one. There are millions of jokes about in-laws especially the infamous mother-in-laws….

Silence of the Lambs

By Munene Gangi “Nothing good ever comes of violence.” Martin Luther I live a simple, or is it simplistic, life. I am reserved and quite an introvert. The isolation during this pandemic period hasn’t affected me that much, only that I am not able to see as many people as I used to unless taking…

Financial Reflections

“In the middle of difficulty, lies opportunity.” Albert Einstein Covid-19 has turned things around in such a big way, no one alive has seen anything quite like it. It has reshaped our world. The global crisis has come with its own challenges including social-economic impacts. We are now distant from one another and/or far from…

Lean on Me

Sometimes in our lives We all have pain We all have sorrow But, if we are wise We know that there’s always tomorrow Lean on me when you’re not strong I’ll be your friend I’ll help you carry on For it won’t be long I’m gonna need Somebody to lean on ~ Michael Bolton Have…

Archer’s Post

By TN – Guest Writer For when David had served God’s purpose in his own generation, he fell asleep; he was buried with his fathers ~ Acts 13:36 He picks up the quiver, checking to see the arrows available. It’s going to be a lovely day, he thinks. Setting out to sharpen each arrow, he…

Weighty Matters

Weighting to Exhale, remember the article? I’ve talked about my journey towards weight loss before. I am a plus-size girl and have been since birth. You know those kids who are placed on the weighing scale during a regular clinic visit and there’s that, ‘…um’? You know, when the nurse starts giving nutritional advice to…

Post-COVID Church Worship

COVID-19 has disrupted a lot of things. Workspace, minimal movement, budget restructuring, social distancing, pay cuts, you name it. The modus operandi these days. Personally, it has also affected one of the things I love dearly. I miss church. I miss the fellowship of fellow believers gathered together. I miss being part of a congregation…

Fair Game

‘Many marriages would be better if the husband and the wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.’ ~ Zig Ziglar Conflict is a minefield in the piece of land called relationship, very much part of life yet so badly handled by many. Those in love want to know how to resolve it…

Attitude

If you read my blog regularly, you will note that I have not written in a while. I have had a mind block. There is too much going on around me, around us. Too much COVID19 news to consume lately most of it, well, not necessarily good. If not careful, one can end up feeling…

The New Normal?

Matthew Ruigu I got me a haircut two days ago. It was the first in three weeks. If you know me then you also know that hair on my head grows unevenly while my beard sprouts like it is on steroids. Therefore, my barber and I have a date on average every ten days. But…

The Ultimate Thing

By Lucy Wache Oyier Idolatry happens when we take good things and make them the ultimate things. ~ Timothy Keller I’m nocturnal. My darling husband is the opposite. It is in the morning that he gets inspiration. It is in the morning that he wants to connect. It is in the morning that he comes alive and gets…

Rejection

Rejection doesn’t mean you’re not good enough; it means the other person has failed to notice what you have to offer. ~ Mark Amend Ever felt alone, felt unwanted or unappreciated? Ever been rejected by someone, whether directly or indirectly? Ever experienced those feelings of anguish, of bitterness, betrayal and, sometimes, rage? I bet you…

The Nothing Box

Ever asked a man what he was thinking about? What was his answer? ‘Nothing’? Did he just say he was thinking about nothing? Did that answer drive you crazy? Did you stare at him in disbelief? Did you find yourself questioning your own wisdom, knowledge and understanding? Trust me, you are not alone. You are…

Do I need My Rib back?

Matt Ruigu Just so that we are clear, I have an abundance of love for the girls. The way I see it, they make life exciting and worth the trouble. I may have mentioned in the past that if not for girls, the great Cape to Cairo trek would never have been done. I have…

The Good of Discomfort

“To keep me from becoming conceited because of these surpassingly great revelations, there was given me a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power…

The Cocoon

One day a small opening appeared on a cocoon, a man sat and watched for the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go…

Perspective

A new year for me always starts with much optimism, excitement and hope. I am sure many of you feel the same way, that 2020 will be better than 2019. Dedicated time with God, financial growth/breakthrough, get a job/promotion, spend more time with family, travel more, or follow through with plans initiated but not concluded….

Untold

When the eyes say one thing, and the tongue another, a practiced man relies on the language of the first. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson The success of a relationship is built, in part, on how well a couple communicates. That is what breaks down obstacles in a relationship in the quest for mutual respect, trust,…

Unborn: The Battle Within

By Fred Makori I had to be on set for a production I was involved in. That meant I wouldn’t be available to accompany my wife to the imaging center for the ultrasound. We were happy that our firstborn was going to get a sibling in a couple of months. We had big plans; a…

Unexpectant: Losing My Pregnancy and My Mind (Part III)

By Roseline K. Njogu Nairobi Hospital area. If I found myself in that neighborhood, my heart would pound, my chest would tighten, I’d break into a cold sweat and I was sure I was going to die. But death and thoughts of death were now constant companions. I thought of my dead baby every waking…

Unexpectant: Losing My Pregnancy and My Mind (Part II)

By Roseline K. Njogu  The nausea woke me up. I shuffled to the bathroom and threw up. My hands went instinctively to my belly. Then I remembered. Slowly like bits and pieces in a dream, the goings on of the day before Unexpectant: Losing My Pregnancy and My Mind (Part I) came together. Dr Kinyua….

Unexpectant: Losing My Pregnancy and My Mind (Part I)

By Roseline K. Njogu Blighted ovum. That’s what Dr Kinyua said. Blighted ovum. I started thinking about potato blight. Suddenly Mr Karani’s voice, from another lifetime, talking about crop pests and diseases in science class, was crystal clear in my head. Blight. My mind was desperately looking for an escape, like a deer caught in…

Situation Room

“The handling of finances is one of the major emotional battlegrounds of any marriage. Lack of finances is seldom the issue. The root problem seems to be an unrealistic and immature view of money – David Augsburger In my previous post Un-Stable, we looked at financial (in)stability and its impact on relationships. Of importance is coming…

Un-Stable

I want a financially stable guy. How many times have you said that? How many girls have you heard say that? Is it wrong to have such a desire? After all, it’s your dream. And to quote Lupita Nyong’o, your dreams are valid. Financial stability is and has been a key consideration for many when…

Mid-Life: Crisis Mode

My heart took delight in all my labor, and this was the reward for all my toil. Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done and what I had toiled to achieve, everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind; nothing was gained under the sun -Ecclesiastes 2:10–11 Very profound, those two verses. ‘I worked…

Musings of a Woman

The setting was perfect. The excitement was genuine. A cuppa at Java coffee with a friend I had not seen in ages. In the end, I felt angry, I felt helpless. I cried. Here she was, a young lady, going through so much torment in her short life. And there I was, listening and asking…

Worshipeatrics

We were created for worship. Recently, I read a post on my friend’s Facebook timeline. It was from some guy I didn’t know but who had a pertinent question to regular churchgoers. Are they getting distracted by how worship is being led nowadays? He listed some of the distractions, some of which you could be…

Out Of Bounds

“Sexual trauma isn’t a one time event. It’s something we battle for a lifetime. No matter how much I tried to mute troubling memories, I couldn’t. Flashbacks occurred without warning……….I was a broken mess.” – Dana Arcuri He was trusted by my parents to take care of our homestead back in the rural country. That…

I Can Do Bad By Myself

Most people cheat because they are focusing on what they’re missing rather than on what they have – Unknown Ah, remember last week? That never-ending age-old topic on whether men are capable of loving only one woman? Well, interesting feedback I received from both great sides of the divide. Women fear that unknown; is he…

Love One Woman? Impossible

It is not monogamy when there is one legal wife, and mistresses out of sight – Annie Besant I was listening to radio the other day. I don’t know why I got stuck to listening to this particular station. I usually don’t pay much attention to what’s aired on it due to its controversies. But…

Taking Responsibility

“Now what state do you live in?” “Denial.” – Bill Watterson In a video I watched recently, a lady shared her life story on how her divorce had taught her some invaluable life lessons. One of the lessons she mentioned, and which struck a chord with me, was that she accepted she too had responsibility…

Worthy to Serve?

A question was recently posted to me by a friend. Was she still worthy to serve in church? Like really, was she? Here’s her story; she recently separated with her husband after going through a rough patch in their marriage. Having been both regulars, she had chosen to serve in that particular church they attended….

Transparency Quagmire

This article was triggered by a conversation with a friend who shared with me a rather sad story. There’s a couple out there who’ve been married for around two years. They literally have not had sex since they got married. Why? The man discovered that his wife had undergone female genital mutilation but had never disclosed…

Frustrated Sexually

It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. … I wish that all men were as I…

Broken Vessels

I had the privilege of meeting my old friends recently, two groups within seven days. Exciting people, amazing memories, spanning more than ten years. It was great catching up and going down memory lane. We had some great times together, and it was wonderful reminiscing that past. In our younger years, we were full of…

What’s Your Worth?

Surround yourself with the right people, and realize your own worth. Honestly, there are enough bad people out there in the world – you don’t need to be your own worst enemy. ~ Lucy Hale It’s been one year. That’s right. One year since I started blogging. I am so excited, so thrilled, for this…

The Love Casket

“Human life is made in God’s image, and that makes it sacred.” Colins S. Smith. I am not okay. It keeps hitting me like a thunderbolt, this much evil going on in our land. And it borders the absurd. The levels we are now reaching have made a mockery of our humanity, and we are…

Single Parents & Dating

I’m sitting at a lobby of a hotel in Nairobi, Kenya, waiting for an important person that I recently connected with. Then, I remember, my friend had asked me about a question. Single parent. Dating. They have a lot to consider before getting into relationships, single parents. The playing field isn’t level for them. The…

La Comparaison

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” ~ Theodore Roosevelt The year I got married was an exciting season for us and for a several of our friends who got married the same year. But it was also draining. We had to participate in each other’s wedding preparations. The financial contributions to the weddings were like…

Body shaming

“It’s not my responsibility to be beautiful. I’m not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me.” Warsan Shire Has anyone ever said anything negative to you about your body? Have they called you fat, that you have a big forehead and they make fun of your receding hairline?…

I Am Alone

I would like to dedicate this article to you, you who has tried to do your best to make your marriage work but either, it is not working, or you have already gone separate ways with your spouse. I recently wrote on the issue of being part of a group that you can walk with…

A Letter to My Folks

It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings. Today, I honor two important people in my life. My parents. This article has been inspired by a change that has taken place that requires some adjustments. You see,…

Emotional Infidelity

It happened subtly. You can’t explain how it began. Casually. A simple compliment. A smile. A stare. A second look. And another. Before you knew it, thoughts were lingering. A desire to see him. A need to talk to her. You enjoyed. The talks. Easy. Longer talks. You talked about everything and anything. Then, a…

Never Walk Alone

When you walk through a storm, Hold your head up high, And don’t be afraid of the dark. At the end of a storm, There’s a golden sky, And the sweet silver song of a lark, Walk on through the wind, Walk on through the rain. Though your dreams be tossed and blown, Walk on,…

Every Woman

Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Proverbs 31.30 How do you balance all that? This is one of the common questions for women that are deemed successful by the society. We wonder how a successful woman at the helm of an organization manages…

I Do, Over and Again

Munene Gangi He spun around, his head in his hands. His expression echoed disbelief. How did this happen, he seemed to wordlessly implore. This was after infidelity had wrecked his marriage. This was after abuse had crippled his relationship. This was after economic hardships and financial disloyalty had sabotaged a life long journey. His patience…

Love Duty

Last week on 8th March was International Women’s Day, a day that celebrates and recognizes women’s cultural, social, economic and political achievements, while building their rights and participation in the said spheres. I was amazed at the number of events that took place in the country and around the world in honor of women. Women…

The Sub-Mission

It was a bridal shower for a friend, the first I had attended in my life. Clearly, I had no idea what these showers were all about. The ladies in attendance were looking like a million bob each, never mind back then showers were not color coordinated and a theme to boot. Many of us were…

A Few Good Men

“Both men and women today see marriage not as a way of creating character and community but as a way to reach personal life goals. They are looking for a marriage partner who will ‘fulfill their emotional, sexual, and spiritual desires.’ And that creates an extreme idealism that in turn leads to a deep pessimism…

Water Runs Dry

We don’t even talk anymore And we don’t even know what we argue about. Don’t even say I love you no more ‘Cause saying how we feel is no longer allowed. Some people will work things out And some just don’t know how to change Let’s not wait till the water runs dry. We might…

Tangled

I recently started a conversation on emotional abuse and had a chance to talk to several colleagues on their upbringing. Their responses got me thinking, about how parenting can either have positive or negative impact. Growing up, my father’s word was law. He didn’t shy away from disciplining my siblings and I, and exercised Proverbs…

May ‘e’ date you?

The dating world makes me feel incredibly vulnerable. You put yourself out there earnestly as available only to encounter some of the most disingenuous people. There seems to be no formula. Just a boat load of anxiety. – Alafia Stewart We live in the digital era. That’s right. It’s like a new world. Cars, books,…

UnLearning

Standing tall on the public greenspace of Champ de Mars in Paris is the Eiffel Tower. Beautiful. Magnificent. Majestic. This cultural iconic tower, the most visited paid monument in the world, had me stunned by the level of detail as I laid my eyes on it. It has stood for close to 130 years. Awesome….

Scarred

“The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heal” – Astrid Alauda A child is born into this world. A tough, tough world. Difficult to navigate through. Years go by. His mother, her dad. Painful words spew from their mouths. You are good for nothing. I wish I never had you. You will never…

Hold Me… to Account

A duty dodged is like a debt unpaid; it is only deferred, and we must come back and settle the account at last. ~ Joseph Fort Newton The New Year may have just begun, but as for you and I, we will continue sharing our literary worlds. Buckle up. Let’s Get Talking. Highs and lows…

Un-break my heart

“When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart has been sent to heal.” – Author Unknown We have all experienced this before, a feeling of great sadness, feeling of disappointment. A feeling that seems like it…

A Letter to You, My Daughter

The day was 19th November, the year 2002. I was drowsy. I had woken up after six hours. As I looked up, I could see tears streaming down my sister’s face. Tears of joy. For after a caesarian section operation due to fetal distress, she gave me the news. A beautiful baby girl had been…

Till Money Do Us Part?

Money, makes the world go round. It has become the answer to almost everything. Proverbs 10.15 states, “The wealth of the rich is their fortified city, the poverty of the poor is their ruins.” Money opens doors for opportunities, both good and bad. It is the medium we use to access our needs. I would…

Courageous Cowards

Munene Gangi There are statements that we love to use; ‘I trust God’, ‘I believe in Him’, ‘He’s promised to deliver’. Big statements that show a belief in the supernatural, a supreme being we call the Almighty. Statements that show faith, that though the norm says A cannot happen before B, we believe it can….

Holiday Inn

And just like that, the school calendar is over, and in comes in the longest School break of the year. It is good for the kids, a moment for rejuvenation. After all, they have been studying hard all year? It’s a good time to have good ol’ family time with them. And yet, it may…

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall…

Do you get scared of seeing those scars, marks, folds, cellulite, wrinkles and other real or imagined imperfections on your body? Ever chosen to stand in front of a mirror bare naked. I did. I gathered my courage and looked at myself… bare. However, just as it may not be easy for some of us,…

Forever Yours?

In the recent weeks, our country has been fed with on-goings of a murder case, that of a deceased young woman. The investigations of the case, of which I will not talk much about, are still in progress, with the suspects being an engaged couple that are known in the society. With the intriguing events…

Expectations

Manage your expectations. A crucial statement that has always left me wondering, especially where relationships are concerned. After all, don’t we all have some things that need to be met? Isn’t this, I believe, the reason we choose the people we want to be with, because we know they can meet these things? Picture this….

Enemy of the State: The State of Man

Munene Gangi Just as a shark detects one drop of blood in a gazillion of water, so are we quick to spot moments of telling weaknesses in men. Moments that leave us decrying the lack of good men around, moments that have made ladies think they are lost in a forest and cannot find a…

The Retirement of a Worship Leader

‘Aren’t you old to be still serving?’ That’s what it sounds, at times, when people see that I’m still in the worship team, or choir, as some churches prefer to put it. It amazes me, but more importantly, it makes me wonder; when can, or does, one retire from serving in the music ministry? Why…

Ooo-oh Boy Child!

There has been a lot of talk lately about the boy child, it may have affected our weather patterns. Many are wondering what is happening to him. Has he become weak? Some may think. Is he endangered owing to the empowered female who is taking over the world? Others might argue. You see, a lot…

What’s 40 got to do with it?

Today I turn 40! Yes, and I have been asking myself one question. What’s the big deal about turning 40? Just what is it? I know the Bible does show a number of instances where 40 signified a period of trial and/or testing. And outside of it, there have actually been many debates as to…

Kigumz @40!

I turn 40 next week. That’s right, I do. I just never imagined that I’d hit this age one day. Well, except in the last 2 years or so. You see, it’s always easy to think of yourself as forever young. Youth is bliss, you know? I’ve had a chance to reflect on my life…

Keeping it real? It ain’t real no more

Bring back those simple times of yesterday When a man was a man And a friend was a friend Bring back those simple times of yesterday When you said what you meant And you meant what you said. I grew up listening to this song, Simple Days, in the 90s. Back then, Kenneth Brian Edmonds,…

A Thorny Flight to Rose County

Munene Gangi The camera lingers for a moment, capturing you and your lovebird ecstatic at being the globe’s newest couple. The glorious occasion, sealed with a kiss, is the perfect send off to your field of dreams in the uncharted world of marriage. Joy, excitement, intimacy and adventure consume you as you resonate with Michael…

Don’t Leave Me God

Return me to your power, That once by grace I knew, Forgive the sin that grieves your heart, And help me be true, Don’t turn your face from me, For the things I used to do, Renew a right spirit within my heart, All I need is You. Don’t, don’t leave me God, Don’t, don’t…

Weighting to Exhale

If you haven’t read my article titled ‘Hip Mama’, please do. Losing weight is one of the hardest tasks on earth, as hard as turning away from sin. You have good intentions of changing your ways; eating right, exercising, drinking lots of water, clean eating (no wheat or sugar). Intentions. Similar to those New Year…

When we Praise

When you praise, when you praise, there should be a fire in your heart. Hands up raised, when you praise, consuming every part because you know the GOD we serve will make His presence known. When you praise, when you praise. Fred Hammond (lyrics) Sunday morning. Here I am, about to go lead worship in…

The Elephant in the Room

Why do some of us do it? Why do we just find it so irresistible? What are we so curious to know? In a conversation I had with a couple of my colleagues, the men wondered why women like snooping through their husbands or boyfriends’ phones. Why, they asked, is it hard not to go…

Let No One put Asunder

‘I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.’ Powerful, powerful words aren’t they. They that always make me wonder if many of those exchanging these…

Obsession

Parenting is not so much doing the right things with your child, but it’s about being the right person with the child. ~ Stanley Mukolwe Mothers. They obsess. Their brag about their children. Great grades in school, how the kids thrive in sport. Fast learners in spelling or reading, singing has become so natural it…

Color Me Perfect

Munene Gangi If Adam and Eve were to take theater seats and watch the movie we call ‘Relationship’, they would certainly be engulfed in fits of hysterical laughter. Not since the infamous days of the forbidden apple has the term ‘perfection’ looked to have lost its meaning, as modern day human beings seek to make…

Independence Day

When did they grow up, you ask. When did they get a mind of their own, you process. When did they stop being needy and clingy on mum or dad, you get bewildered. Just when did they grow up? Every child born, more often than not, is a bundle of joy. The parent’s nurturing, training,…

Romeo, Wherefore Art Thou, Romeo?

Ah, that famous Shakespeare’s balcony scene that has Juliet beckoning Romeo, “O Romeo, Romeo, wherefore art thou Romeo?’ I don’t think Juliet Capulet’s question related to ‘where’ Romeo Montague could have been as opposed to ‘why’ Romeo had to be a Montague, a member of a rival gang. The story does paint a backdrop, though, of…

Hip Mama, Slam in the Ham!

You’ve put on weight! You are too heavy! You don’t like what you see in the mirror? Cellulite! Try out this diet! Avoid carbs! Avoid meat! Portions! Paleo! Do some exercises! Many women do struggle with weight issues, and as a result, most do not esteem themselves highly. The pressures and the noises of this…

Why would I get Married?

Ask randomly and you will be told that marriage is similar to jumping from the frying pan into a blazing furnace. Meet anyone in the streets and on their foreheads will be the words ‘Be afraid. Be very afraid’. Listen to your best friend utter the words ‘marriage is like a room with no exit door’ and you’ll…

Rosy Sparks

Don’t want to live this life without you, Defeats the purpose of what we’ve been through, I’ve got to hold on and trust that you will too, Coz life will be meaningless if you’re not there boo! I remember the day I saw you and you saw me, And you came up to me and…

What If…?

Innovation is at the very heart of the existence of the life science company I work for.  We have been encouraged not to kill any idea and to continuously think of solutions to problems that we face in our day-to-day life, to internalize and to live the essence of the concept ‘What if’. To be…